Becoming Unfuckwithable
(No, it doesn’t mean you never cry in the loo at work)
People hear the word unfuckwithable and imagine someone strutting through life in a power suit, radiating zero self-doubt and a bulletproof attitude.
But that’s not what I mean.
Unfuckwithable isn’t about pretending nothing bothers you.
It’s not about being aggressive, hardened, or loud.
And it’s definitely not about becoming someone you’re not.
To me, being unfuckwithable means:
You trust yourself deeply, even when others doubt you
You speak up, even when your voice shakes
You set boundaries without guilt
You lead from your values, not your fear
You hold power and softness, clarity and care
It’s rooted. Quietly powerful.
Unshakeable in a way that doesn’t need to shout.
“Unfuckwithable doesn’t mean you’re fearless. It means you trust yourself – even when you’re scared.”
The First Time I Slayed a Dragon
Becoming unfuckwithable didn’t happen overnight.
But there was one moment that changed everything for me.
There was a male psychologist on LinkedIn – clearly passionate, deeply intelligent, and very vocal. He had a habit of enthusiastically challenging other psychologists in the comments, often in a way that felt a bit… intense.
Psychology is a profession that’s overwhelmingly female.
And what many of us started to notice was this:
He was policing the women.
It wasn’t overt.
But the impact was clear.
I’d spoken to so many brilliant women who didn’t post at all because they didn’t want to be challenged, corrected, or picked apart.
That fear was costing them:
Money
Confidence
Visibility
Their voice
Then one day, he posted something like:
“I’ve realised I might have been a bit over-zealous in how I engage...”
And something in me said:
“This is your moment.”
So I messaged him directly.
Not to call him out, but to call him into a conversation.
“Would you be open to hearing some reflections on how your comments are landing, especially for women?”
He said yes.
We had a brilliant conversation.
He listened. He reflected. He took it well.
He’s a good dude. He just didn’t see it. And he massively toned it down.
But the biggest shift wasn’t his. It was mine.
I ended that call and thought:
“Holy shit. I did it. I said the thing. And nothing bad happened.”
And when I ended that call, I swear something in me had shifted.
I had slain the dragon.
Not him.
The internal one – the voice that said:
“Don’t speak up.
Don’t rock the boat.
He’s smarter than you.
What if he doesn’t like you anymore?”
That voice lost its grip that day.
And in its place?
Was the quiet, grounded knowing of someone who could finally say:
“You have no power over me.”
(Labyrinth fans, you’ll know.)
That’s when I really started showing up online as me.
Not the polished version. Not the Good Girl version.
Just… me.
And that’s when things started to shift. For real.
Becoming HER is a Process
That dragon-slaying moment didn’t come out of nowhere.
It was the result of doing the inner work. The messy work.
The slow, unglamorous, deeply necessary work of unlearning the Good Girl rules that had kept me quiet, agreeable, and small.
That’s what Rise Above is all about.
It’s the 6-month group coaching programme I created to help women unlearn the patterns that hold them back – and build leadership from the inside out.
The RISE ABOVE Process
1. Recognising Good Girl Conditioning
We start by identifying perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter feelings and all the patterns that keep you stuck.
You can’t change what you can’t see.
2. Involving Others & Surrounding Yourself with Support
You build a support system that reminds you: you’re not doing this alone.
Leadership is relational, not solo.
3. Self-Compassion and Emotional Regulation
You learn how to navigate stress, setbacks, and emotions with grace instead of burnout.
Gentleness is strength.
4. Empowering Your Voice
We tackle speaking up, being assertive, and having the hard conversations.
You can be clear and kind.
5. Aligning with Authenticity and Accepting Imperfections
You lead as yourself – not as the version you were taught to be.
Realness over performance.
6. Building Resistance to Criticism and Setbacks
Because the more visible you are, the more resilient you need to be.
Not everyone will like you. That’s okay.
7. Owning Your Power
You learn to make decisions, take up space, and lead with confidence.
Power with integrity is unstoppable.
8. Valuing Yourself
We do the deep work around worthiness, boundaries, and not shrinking to be liked.
No more proving. No more pleasing.
9. Empowering Others
Leadership isn’t just about you – it’s about how you lift others too.
Your ripple effect matters.
10. Evolving and Continuing the Journey
You leave with a long-term vision – because this work doesn’t stop at 6 months.
Leadership is a practice, not a destination.
Rise Above: The Group Experience
Starts September 2025
Join the waitlist now for early access, bonuses, and first dibs
One Last Thing…
You don’t have to feel fearless to begin.
You just have to be done with shrinking.
So ask yourself:
What would I do this week if I were just 5% more unfuckwithable?
Then go do that.
And if you want someone in your corner while you rise, I’m right here.
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