This week, I did something that feels huge. I pressed submit on an application that could take my work (and my life) into an entirely new chapter.
And I was accepted.
I’m not naming the programme just yet (keeping a little mystery alive), but I want to share the why because the reasons matter more than the label.
Good Girls and Taboo Topics
So much of my work has been about helping women break free from Good Girl Conditioning: all those unspoken rules that say we must be pleasing, compliant, self-sacrificing, and endlessly smiling… even when we’re drowning inside.
And where does this conditioning bite hardest? Female sexuality. Still one of the biggest taboos in our culture.
Most of the women I work with don’t even know what they truly want when it comes to love, sex, and relationships. They’ve been taught not to want too much, not to make demands, not to explore their pleasure. That leaves them disconnected. From their bodies, their boundaries, and their desires.
And yet, true empowerment has to include sexuality. We can’t claim to be free if shame and silence still rule the most intimate parts of our lives.
Patriarchy and the Policing of Women’s Bodies
Patriarchy has always been obsessed with controlling women’s bodies.
For centuries, laws, religions, and cultural norms have dictated:
what women can wear,
when and how they can have children,
whether they’re “pure” or “fallen” 🙄,
and how much desire or pleasure they’re permitted to express (spoiler: almost none).
From witch trials to slut-shaming, from dress codes to reproductive rights, women’s bodies have been treated like public property - scrutinised, judged, legislated, and silenced.
And if you want a modern example, look at Madonna. For decades, she’s been ridiculed, condemned, and dragged through the mud for daring to say the simplest truth: she loves sex. A man saying the same would be celebrated as powerful or virile. A woman saying it? She’s labelled disgusting, desperate, or “too much.” (Watch Madonna talking about this)
When you zoom out, it’s clear why: a woman who is fully in touch with her body and her pleasure is dangerous to patriarchy. She can’t be as easily manipulated by shame. She won’t shrink to fit someone else’s expectations. She won’t confuse control for love.
That’s why reclaiming your body, your desire, your pleasure, your boundaries, isn’t indulgent or frivolous. It’s a radical act of rebellion. Every time a woman says, “this is what I want, this is what I don’t, and I get to decide,” she chips away at a system that relies on her silence and compliance.
And that’s why I feel called to step into this next chapter. Because it’s not just about intimacy or relationships - it’s about freedom.
Why Now
Every time I’ve shared with clients that I’m exploring this next step, their eyes light up. The response is always a mix of relief and excitement: “Yes! We need this.” That reaction tells me I’m on the right path.
I’m ready to learn new tools and practices - ones that go beyond mindset and into the body. I want to guide women to heal shame, cultivate safety, and reconnect with their authentic desires. And yes, there’s also a glorious goddess element to this work - helping women tap into their power, sensuality, and sacredness without apology.
Why It’s Scary
And yet… I’m terrified.
Partly because I’m a 46-year-old woman who, despite feeling fairly liberated these days, was still brought up on a diet of Carry On films and the like. Which means that the moment I say anything remotely sexual, it comes out in a double entendre… in a silly voice… and I giggle like a teenager.
Honestly, I’ve got the sense of humour of an eight-year-old boy. Body parts, sex talk, anything remotely explicit, it still makes me snort-laugh. That’s my defence mechanism (such a child!).
But I know that’s exactly why I need to do this. Because if I stay in the jokes and innuendo, I’m avoiding the deeper truth. This step is about me growing as much as it is about supporting others to grow.
The Bigger Picture
This is what I know:
✨ Women deserve to feel whole.
✨ Women deserve to know and ask for what they want.
✨ Women deserve to feel like goddesses in their own lives, not just in someone else’s fantasy.
So while this next step scares me, it also feels like the most aligned, exciting, necessary thing I could be doing.
An Invitation
I’m celebrating the courage it took to apply, to trust that I’m on the right path because my whole body (and my clients’ sparkling eyes) say yes.
So let me turn this back to you:
Where are you still holding back on what you really want, maybe because it feels scary, taboo, or a little bit silly?
And what’s one small step you could take this week to claim it?
Because whether it’s whispered, giggled, or shouted from the rooftops, your desires matter. And they’re worth listening to.
And now I’m left musing… can I really put the “equipment” I’ll need for this through the business? What will the accountant say? 🤔😂
Eeek.
Mx