It’s so true, powerful, and for me, it is utterly visceral.
I recognise all of it, and remember a counsellor suggesting (not entirely inaccurately) that I may be a ‘pathological fixer’ not least partly because I’d bought into the workplace that “often rewards helpfulness (until it doesn’t)”.
Like you, I think I’m getting better at restraining myself, what I also need to work on is banishing the associated guilt. Thanks for sharing and letting me see how.
Yes!! I have had to mouth-muzzle the instinct to ‘help’ ‘remind’ ‘correct’
This week when I drew an oracle card Inner Peace it suggested I keep the peace with in myself. I allowed myself to observe all the actions that stole peace and pieces of me. I am actively calling in all my peace & pieces. X
Love this Michelle.
It’s so true, powerful, and for me, it is utterly visceral.
I recognise all of it, and remember a counsellor suggesting (not entirely inaccurately) that I may be a ‘pathological fixer’ not least partly because I’d bought into the workplace that “often rewards helpfulness (until it doesn’t)”.
Like you, I think I’m getting better at restraining myself, what I also need to work on is banishing the associated guilt. Thanks for sharing and letting me see how.
Ah yes, the guilt is real. The reframe is that we’re potentially harming the other person by jumping into fixing.
Yes!! I have had to mouth-muzzle the instinct to ‘help’ ‘remind’ ‘correct’
This week when I drew an oracle card Inner Peace it suggested I keep the peace with in myself. I allowed myself to observe all the actions that stole peace and pieces of me. I am actively calling in all my peace & pieces. X
Oh gosh - yes. All of this x